This was so delicious I *had* to include it as a stand-alone post.
This was a comment about my post here.
And what I wrote in response.
Cherishing the multiplicity of things,
- John Curtis said…
The Secret is the latest and by far the worst example of a HIGHLY profitable trend where self-help gurus with fabricated new age titles and little relevant education, credentials or legitimate expertise brainwash us into believing that they know what is best for us, our marriages and our families.
Often their only contribution to society is introducing some exotic sounding, new age philosophy. However, they often cleverly form an incestuous group of like-minded “experts” who cross-promote each other by swearing their success is due to following the beliefs of another member of their “cult!” All the while, they ply the airwaves jockeying for an ever-larger audience by appearing in the national media to garner third-party endorsements.
The Self-Help Movement has become the Self-Destruct Movement by diminishing or destroying our critical thinking skills to choose and evolve on our own. We have given up the freedom to build healthy lives, marriages and families based on our unique history and life experience. Instead many victims, blinded to the value of their own life experiences, are attracted to the latest secret in self-help, in an attempt to find out what they should think, feel and how they should act… this is the definition of a cult.
The solution is a return to our (common) senses! The best way out of this learned “self-helplessness” is to go cold turkey. Stop following ALL self-help gurus now. Begin, instead, to reclaim your natural, God-given ability to think for yourself. The common sense that was once readily available to all of us is still there free of charge and waiting to be applied to just about any challenge we might face in life… all you have to do is use it.
Please, let’s all work together to stop the flock of “sheepeople” who blindly move from one UNPROVEN concept to the next, looking for the answers to life’s challenges that you already possess and that is the OBVIOUS!
I relish your critical thinking and discernments, John. Brilliant.
I know this probably doesn’t apply to you, but I’ve heard lots of people bashing the work of some-person-or-other who’s doing their best to contribute (my friends Ken Wilber, David Deida, Marshall Rosenberg, and many other thinkers I know were all bashed by many), somewhere or other.
Even the writers of “The Secret” are TRYING to make a contribution.
And some people DO benefit from that bit!
And that bit, combined with many other bits, I believe, moves the world needle of consciousness forward through evolution.
I wonder, of all of the people bashing one thing or another, how many of them are capable of “Both/And” thinking.
(Which reminds me, I had a post I wanted to write about that! Thank you for the reminder!!)
Both/And – y’know, instead of Either/Or thinking (ex: This Sucks, That’s Great, Run From All That Sucks)…(aka Good/Bad Right/Wrong duality-based arguments that can happen ad-infinausium even beyond war and death) —
Both/And – This AND that. Taking the gold nuggets that DO work for you, and just using the “law of two feet” on the rest (walk away and go find other nuggets that work better for you — and leave what you don’t like to the people who DO benefit – to benefit).
In other words, remembering that just because it’s not the “end-all” for you, doesn’t mean it HAS to be the “end all” at all. For anyone. And that doesn’t make it worthless.
But then again, our world wouldn’t be what it is without people pushing against things they don’t love and resisting them with high-volume screaming warnings; where else would we find opposing views to chew on?
Anyway, thank you for reminding me to me to post the Both/And concept! I cherish your intelligent insights!
And thank you for reminding us all to think!
Admiring your contribution and your willingness to put it out there!!