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11 Essentials To End Burn-Out

Are you fried, overwhelmed, exhausted, burnt-out, and too busy to do anything about it? Do you wake up just as tired as when you went to sleep?  Do you dread the never-ending list of things you “have to” do?

If any of that fits, here are 11 Essentials you can use immediately to end the “burn out” lifestyle and put you on a road to healthier balance while also taking care of all your concerns.

11 Essentials for Ending Burn-Out

1.) Change Your Mind – What beliefs are you holding that keep you making the choices you make?  What would it take for you to believe that you CAN have a more balanced life that also cares for your other concerns?

Practice:  Can you effortlessly say, “I live a daily practice of 30 minutes for myself to do nothing but rest”?  If not, do a Focus Wheel on it.  You can find instructions and pictures about Focus Wheels under #3 in this blog post.

2.) Balance Your Body – What daily practice do you use to care for your body’s needs for rest, space, and time for yourself?

Practice: Block 30 minutes each day just for You Time, and honor it.  No excuses.  It’s ok if you do it in three 10-minute blocks, just do it!  In your You Time, do only what most gives you rest.  Nap, meditate, talk a walk in fresh air, listen to a binaural beat Theta program, just do one thing that clears your mind and helps you experience rest.

3.) Sense Your Spirit – When do you experience the most self-love, self-cherishing, and knowledge of the Divinity that you most deeply Are?  On a scale of 0-10, how much do you revere the Temple of You?

Practice:  If you’ve not ever experienced cherishing your Spiritual aspect, now’s the time.  Bond with the expansive one-ness you can get in nature, or do a 30-minute meditation asking the question, “Who am I Most Deeply?” over and over until you feel a radical expansive opening.  Don’t think about an answer, listen for one.  Just watch and notice what surfaces.  What do you discover?  What do you experience there?

4.) Hear Your Heart – What anxieties, fears and worries keep you making the choices you make?  What would it take for you to attend to your fear and worry in a way that also takes better care of your needs for balance and rest?

Practice:  If you are not yet skilled to transform fear or worry to powerful action and equanimity, it’s time to cultivate a skill in Release Work.  You can find free guides to Transforming Stress on ThriveDrive.com, just create a free account, log in, click ARTICLES, and search for TRANSFORMING STRESS.

5.) Give In To Your Gut – What core values are you trying to fulfill by living a life that is so busy it burns you out?  There are benevolent gifts you’re trying to give yourself and/or others by the life choices you’ve made.  What are they?  Find a way to honor those that also cares for your need for rest and balance.

Practice:  Once you discover the core values keeping you so busy that you’re burnt out, ask yourself, “How can I honor these IN A WAY THAT ALSO gives me the rest and balance I need?”  Alternately you can ask, “How can I have more rest and balance IN A WAY THAT ALSO lets me continue to honor those other areas?”

6.) Act With Better Alignment – If you’re burnt out, it’s likely you don’t ask for what you need, ask for help, delegate tasks, or say ‘no’ with care as well as you could.  Which ones of these can you get better at?

Practice:  Hire a coach who can help you master this practice and use this skill – even when it feels scary.  With the right coach you’ll master this in as little as 4-8 sessions.

7.) Embrace Your Environment – What social, relationship, work or cultural influences contribute to you living the way you live that makes you burnt out?   Whose expectations are you trying to fulfill?  Whose past expectations?  Whose present expectations?  Whose expectations about your future?

Practice:  What would it take for you to attend to those expectations and needs in a way that is also in balance with yourself?  If you can’t find a way to honor A+B in a way that doesn’t burn you out, hire a coach to help you find ways to integrate two sets of values more effectively.

8.) Master Your Middle – What practical, rubber-to-the road structures do you use to account for all your needs including rest and relaxation?  How do you block your schedule?  What do you do when something urgent shows up on your You Time?  How many hours a week do you spend attending to each area of your life?

Practice:  Practical skills like better schedule blocking, better accounting (for your needs), and better container-holding make it possible to have balance while also taking care of other urgencies.  Work on this set of skills, or talk to a coach to get support.

9.) Lower Your Work Ethic –  What “have to”s are you holding that keep you in your burn out cycle?  Can you say, “It’s possible that everything I care about can get attended to without so much effort on my part”?  If not, it’s possible you have picked up a cultural work ethic that isn’t yours, that pushes you to do more than is in balance.

Practice:  Confront your inner voices – your inner Drill Sargent, your inner Task Master, and your inner Butler (tending the Mansion) and find out what it would take for them to have peace of mind in a way that also lets you rest and care for yourself better.

10.)  Hasten Higher Awareness – What do you trust that’s bigger than yourself?  Do you ever, “Let go, and let God (handle it)?”  Do you ever trust things will work out just fine on their own, without you having to manage it?  If not, you may lack some basic skills in connecting to your Higher Self aspect.

Practice:  Cultivate your Transpersonal Self Awareness.  If you don’t know how, hire a qualified coach who can help guide you to find it.  You can find one here.

11.)  Get Support – If you already had the ingredients you needed within you, mastered, you would not BE burnt out.  That means you need to make time and get support.  No excuses!  Many of us with burn-out have an environment that doesn’t support rest or balance, and your environment and community might not be properly supporting you to integrate rest and balance.

Practice:  Get a buddy who will do these practices with you, or get a family member who you will let lean on you until you master a practice, or hire a coach to help – just get SOME sort of cultural support in your environment.  Without a support system in your life, you’re likely to slide back into self-defeating habits.  Find some way to make a community that encourages you being where you want to be.

You can get community support for living better balance via the Whole Health Teleseminar Series.  For more information, click HERE.

A drowning person can’t save another drowning person.  No matter how much you think you “have to” do, when you have yourself in balance and meet your own needs properly, you will have more to give those around you.  Like they say in the airplane, “Put the oxygen mask on you first, then on those around you.”

What will it take for you to put down your to-do list and make 30 minutes a day to build skills that support you as well as you support those around you?

(Maya-G) Gail Taylor coaches individuals, couples, families, parents, leaders and professionals on whole health in all aspects at all scales. What do you want different? Get measurable results in 90 minutes or less! For more information, call for a Free 1-Hour Consultation – 1.877.535.5438 Mon-Thurs 12pmET-4pmET.

Afraid about 2012 ?

Simple, articulate message addressing ideas about what is coming in 2012.

Enjoy!
Maya-G

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What the Mayan Elders are Saying About 2012 by Carlos Barrios

Carlos Barrios, Mayan elder and Ajq’ij (is a ceremonial priest and spiritual guide) of the Eagle Clan. Carlos initiated an investigation into the different Mayan calendars circulating. Carlos along with his brother Gerardo studied with many teachers and interviewed nearly 600 traditional Mayan elders to widen their scope of knowledge.

Carlos found out quickly there were several conflicting interpretations of Mayan hieroglyphs, petroglyphs, Sacred Books of ‘Chilam Balam’ and various ancient text. Carlos found some strong words for those who may have contributed to the confusion:

Carlos Barrios: “Anthropologists visit the temple sites and read the inscriptions and make up stories about the Maya, but they do not read the signs correctly. It’s just their imagination. Other people write about prophecy in the name of the Maya. They say that the world will end in December 2012. The Mayan elders are angry with this. The world will not end. It will be transformed.”

“We are no longer in the World of the Fourth Sun, but we are not yet in the World of the Fifth Sun. This is the time in-between, the time of transition. As we pass through transition there is a colossal, global convergence of environmental destruction, social chaos, war, and ongoing Earth Changes.”

He continues: “Humanity will continue, but in a different way. Material structures will change. From this we will have the opportunity to be more human. We are living in the most important era of the Mayan calendars and prophecies. All the prophecies of the world, all the traditions are converging now. There is no time for games. The spiritual ideal of this era is action.”

Carlos tells us: “The indigenous have the calendars and know how to accurately interpret it — not others. The Mayan Calendars comprehension of time, seasons, and cycles has proven itself to be vast and sophisticated. The Maya understand 17 different calendars such as the Tzolk’in or Cholq’ij, some of them charting time accurately over a span of more than ten million years.

“All was predicted by the mathematical cycles of the Mayan calendars. — It will change –everything will change. Mayan Day-keepers view the Dec. 21, 2012 date as a rebirth, the start of the World of the Fifth Sun. It will be the start of a new era resulting from and signified by the solar meridian crossing the galactic equator and the Earth aligning itself with the center of the galaxy.”

At sunrise on December 21, 2012 for the first time in 26,000 years the Sun rises to conjunct the intersection of the Milky Way and the plane of the ecliptic. This cosmic cross is considered to be an embodiment of the Sacred Tree, The Tree of Life, a tree remembered in all the world’s spiritual traditions.

Some observers say this alignment with the heart of the galaxy in 2012 will open a channel for cosmic energy to flow through the Earth, cleansing it and all that dwells upon it, raising all to a higher level of vibration. Carlos reminds us: “This process has already begun. Change is accelerating now and it will continue to accelerate.

If the people of the Earth can get to this 2012 date in good shape without having destroyed too much of the Earth, we will rise to a new, higher level. But to get there we must transform enormously powerful forces that seek to block the way.”

The date specified in the calendar Winter Solstice in the year 2012 does not mark the end of the world. Many outside people writing about the Mayan calendar sensationalize this date, but they do not know. The ones who know are the indigenous elders who are entrusted with keeping the tradition.

Carlos tells us: “The economy now is a fiction. The first five-year stretch of transition from August 1987 to August 1992 was the beginning of the destruction of the material world. We have progressed ten years deeper into the transition phase by now, and many of the so-called sources of financial stability are in fact hollow. The banks are weak. This is a delicate moment for them. They could crash globally, if we don’t pay attention. Now, people are paying attention.”

The North and South Poles are both breaking up. The level of the water in the oceans is going to rise. But at the same time land in the ocean, especially near Cuba, is also going to rise. Carlos tells a story about the most recent Mayan New Year ceremonies in Guatemala. He said that one respected Mam elder, who lives all year in a solitary mountain cave, journeyed to Chichicastenango to speak with the people at the ceremony. The elder delivered a simple, direct message. He called for human beings to come together in support of life and light.

“Right now each person and group is going his or her own way. The elder of the mountains said there is hope if the people of the light can come together and unite in some way. We live in a world of polarity — day and night, man and woman, positive and negative. Light and darkness need each other. They are a balance.” “Just now the dark side is very strong, and very clear about what they want. They have their vision and their priorities clearly held, and also their hierarchy. They are working in many ways so that we will be unable to connect with the spiral Fifth World in 2012.”

“On the light side everyone thinks they are the most important, that their own understandings, or their group’s understandings, are the key. There’s a diversity of cultures and opinions, so there is competition, diffusion, and no single focus.”

Carlos believes the dark side works to block unity through denial and materialism. It also works to destroy those who are working with the light to get the Earth to a higher level. They like the energy of the old, declining Fourth World, the materialism. They do not want it to change. They do not want unity. They want to stay at this level, and are afraid of the next level.

The dark power of the declining Fourth World cannot be destroyed or overpowered. It’s too strong and clear for that, and that is the wrong strategy. The dark can only be transformed when confronted with simplicity and open-heartedness. This is what leads to unity, a key concept for the World of the Fifth Sun.

Carlos said the emerging era of the Fifth Sun will call attention to a much-overlooked element. Whereas the four traditional elements of Earth, Air, Fire and Water have dominated various epochs in the past, there will be a fifth element to reckon with in the time of the Fifth Sun — that element is ‘ETHER’.

The dictionary defines Ether as a “hypothetical substance supposed to occupy all space, postulated to account for the propagation of electromagnetic radiation through space.” Perhaps it could be defined as the “space between space”. I would suggest it could be manifest as the alignment of charged particles from our solar system (Sun), and our galaxy (Milky Way) surge. The Ether element represents spiritual energy.

“The element of the Fifth Sun is celestial. Within the context of Ether there can be a joining of the polarities. No more darkness or light in the people, but an uplifted unity. But right now the realm of darkness is not interested in this. They are organized to block it. They seek to unbalance the Earth and its environment so we will be unready for the alignment in 2012.”

“We need to work together for peace, and balance with the other side. We need to take care of the Earth that feeds and shelters us. We need to put our entire mind and heart into pursuing unity and unity now, to confront the other side and preserve life.”
“We are disturbed — we can’t play anymore. Our planet can be renewed or ravaged. Now is the time to awaken and take action. Everyone is needed. You are not here for no reason. Everyone who is here now has an important purpose. This is a hard but a special time. We have the opportunity for growth, but we must be ready for this moment in history.”

Carlos says: “The prophesied changes are going to happen, but our attitude and actions determine how harsh or mild they are. We need to act, to make changes, and to elect people to represent us who understand and who will take political action to respect the Earth.”

“Meditation and spiritual practice are good, but also action. It’s very important to be clear about who you are, and also about your relation to the Earth. Develop yourself according to your own tradition and the call of your heart. But remember to respect differences, and strive for unity. Eat wisely — a lot of food is corrupt in either subtle or gross ways. Pay attention to what you are taking into your body. Learn to preserve food, and to conserve energy. Learn some good breathing techniques, so you have mastery of your breath. Be clear. Follow a tradition with great roots. It is not important what tradition, your heart will tell you, but it must have great roots.”

“We live in a world of energy. An important task at this time is to learn to sense or see the energy of everyone and everything — people, plants, animals. This becomes increasingly important as we draw close to the World of the Fifth Sun, for it is associated with the element ‘ether’ — the realm where energy lives and weaves. Go to the sacred places of the Earth to pray for peace, and have respect for the Earth which gives us our food, clothing, and shelter. We need to reactivate the energy of these sacred places. That is our work.”

“One simple but effective prayer technique is to light white or baby-blue colored candles. Think of a moment in peace. Speak your intention to the flame and send the light of it on to the leaders who have the power to make war or peace.”
Carlos reminds us this is a crucially important moment for humanity and for Earth. Each person is important.

He said the elders have opened the doors so that other races can come to the Mayan world to receive the tradition. “The Maya have long appreciated and respected that there are other colors, other races, and other spiritual systems. They know that the destiny of the Mayan world is related to the destiny of the whole world.”

“The greatest wisdom is in simplicity. Love, respect, tolerance, sharing, gratitude, forgiveness. It’s not complex or elaborate. The real knowledge is free. It’s encoded in your DNA. All you need is within you. Great teachers have said that from the beginning. Find your heart, and you will find your way.”

”God’ brings us into each others lives for a reason and purpose that we may never know until the end. But every interaction that we have – even if just a simple smile, is a catalyst for something bigger, with a positive or negative outcome, so you must be aware of yourself so you can help another when it is needed.”

Fun, Fantastic 10min Vid

If these topics interest you:

– creativity
– teaching and learning what is ALIVE in us
– turning ON to life, and to each other
– integrated perspective on education
– caring about our cultural education
– seeing the system of education and how it impacts us

Then this 10minute video, VERY fun to watch, may totally tickle your fancy.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zDZFcDGpL4U

It rocked my world….loved it. Loved it, loved it, loved it.

Enjoy!
M-g

PS: Man I gotta learn more about this KR…. here’s another one of his vids:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qFA3K0G2XlA&feature=fvw

Top 3 Mistakes That Make People Miserable (and how to fix them)

To understand the Top 3 Mistakes That Make People Miserable (and how to fix them), it helps if you understand the reality of who you are.

Who are you?

You are more than mind, body, spirit.

You also have actions, that arise out of your beliefs that come from your satisfied or unsatisfied emotions, that are stimulated when your core values that are either met or not met.

You are also inseparably entwined with an interdependent environment, that also interacts with and shapes you.

Let’s consider these aspects the other direction.

When you interact with your environment, your core values may be fed, or not fed.  When they are fed, you feel delight, satisfaction, fulfillment, peace; you feel joy.  When your core values are not met and fed, you feel frustrated, unsettled, upset; you feel pain.

Pain is uncomfortable.  So when we feel pain we are moved to figure out what’s wrong and how to fix it.  We form stories, beliefs, and assessments about the cause of the problem, and who or what is to blame.  We try to figure out ways to stop the pain from happening again.

Once we’ve formed a belief or story about the cause of our pain, we then formulate steps to stop the pain from continuing.  We take action, interacting with our internal or external environment, to protect ourselves from pain.

You are more than just mind, body, spirit.  The Landscape of You includes 7 Aspects – mind, body, spirit, heart (emotions), gut (core values), action and environment (interaction).  When you understand The Landscape of You, you can more easily recognize, fix and avoid common daily pitfalls.

How does this change your specific day-to-day choices?

Top 3 Mistakes That Make People Miserable
(and how to correct them)

1.  You used to believe your emotions or pain are caused by someone or something outside you. That’s a mistake and it disempowers you.  What’s real is that your emotions are like the grumble in your stomach when you’re hungry – they are simply signals pointing out, “HEY, some core value in you is hungry!”  Your job is get really good at quickly noticing WHICH core value(s) is/are needing to be fed.  Your emotional stomach isn’t grumbling because it’s someone else’s fault.  Your emotional stomach is grumbling because some core value in YOU needs attending to.

To correct this mistake, practice noticing EVERY SINGLE moment you are triggered (upset, frustrated, or judging someone).  In that moment, STOP, take two breaths, and ask yourself, “Which one of MY core values is wanting attention here?”

When your stomach grumbles, you ask for food or you get food for yourself.  Likewise, when you get good at noticing and feeding your core values, your emotional stomach will grumble far less.

PRACTICE: Pick any situation that irritates you.  What are you most deeply yearning for in that situation?  What core value in YOU, about YOU, is revealed by your emotion?  Name 3 core values that may be stimulating your irritation.  (For a list of core values, log into your free account at ThriveDrive.com, click ARTICLES, then click “Gut Aspect – Core Needs”.)

2.  You’ve not been very good at caring for your underlying core values and needs. When your stomach grumbles, you ask for food or you get food for yourself.  If you don’t, you get sick, then you starve, then you die.  Most people are suffering a kind of silent subtle body starvation. They have underlying needs (core values) that are not getting fed, and have not been fed for a very long time, which creates huge wells of pain, confusion, and compensatory behavior.  They make up beliefs about why they’re not fed, which contributes to more not getting fed.  Dorothy is exhausted (not doing a good job feeding her need for rest cared for), so she figures her kids are a pain in the neck and she blows up at them.  Dean desperately needs to be seen, understood, and appreciated; he blames his wife for not appreciating him.  Blaming his wife, he feels powerless on top of feeling unappreciated.  To numb his pain, he drinks.  He’s thinking of getting a divorce.

Ultimately, the buck stops with you.  When you die, you die alone.  No one else is responsible for making you happy.  You are responsible for asking for what you need until you get it.  You are responsible for learning how to make better requests that actually work and get your needs fed.  Your job is to learn ways to attend to your needs EVEN IF your requests of OTHERS don’t work.

When your stomach grumbles, you ask for food or you get food for yourself.  As a child you learn how to make requests that get you what you need.  Then you learn how to make peanut butter and jelly sandwiches by yourself.

When you learn to cultivate the habit of effectively asking for what you need, you’ll be more satisfied more often.

PRACTICE: Pick one core value that is upset or going unmet in you.  What specific, doable request can you make of yourself or of others that would feed that need a little bit, right now, in 10 minutes or less?  (For more on Powerful Requests, log into your free account at ThriveDrive.com, click ARTICLES, then click “Powerful Requests”.)

3. You historically made requests that aren’t doable. Most of us are horrible at making specific, doable requests.  “I’m cold,” is not a request.  A specific, doable request might be, “Would you pass me that sweater?”  “Stop interrupting me,” is not a do-able request; what is it you DO want done, right now?  A doable request might be, “Please wait 2 more minutes before you speak again.”   “I need you to listen to me,” is not a do-able request.  How do you confirm if the person is or is not listening?  A doable request might be, “Could you tell me back what you understand I’m upset about?”

Some of us are triggered by just the thought of making a specific, doable request.  The sooner you free yourself from your self-imposed limitations and get good at specific, doable requests, the sooner you will softly and easily be able to ask for – and get – what you need.

PRACTICE: Look at the requests you wrote in the last practice.  Are they specific actions that can be done right now?  Can they be completed in 10 minutes or less?  Do they show what you DO want, instead of what you DON’T want?  Once you’ve come up with ONE specific, doable request, imagine it goes undone.  Write 2 more alternate requests you can make of yourself or others so that you DO get your core value attended to no matter what. (For more on Powerful Requests, log into your free account at ThriveDrive.com, click ARTICLES, then click “Powerful Requests”.)

Understanding The Landscape of You empowers you.  When you realize your emotions arise out of your own unmet needs, you are free, you are no longer a victim to your surroundings.  When you realize how to take powerful action that generates results, you get your needs met and your core values attended to.  (For more on The Landscape of You, log into your free account at ThriveDrive.com, click ARTICLES, then click “Who Are You? The Landscape”.)

You now have a clear path toward your own fulfillment.

Transform your upsets to opportunities, accomplishments and celebrations with one-on-one private coaching support.  For a free consultation, call toll-free 1.877.535.5438.

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(Maya-G) Gail Taylor coaches individuals, couples, families, parents, leaders and professionals on whole health in all aspects at all scales. What do you want different? Get measurable results in 90 minutes or less! For more information, call for a Free 1-Hour Consultation – 1.877.535.5438 Mon-Thurs 12pmET-4pmET.


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