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Seeing Go(o)d Everywhere

After more than 30 years of practice, I no longer subscribe to the narrative of evil. I only subscribe to the recognition of the many permutations of creation, the recognition that every creation is a cell in the body of Consciousness/Creation/God, all of it a “child” of “God”, and the recognition of the innocent and universal core values behind every expression of Creation/God, including the ones that appear tragic, or that I don’t like. Every permutation of Creation is a face/phase of love.

Its not that I don’t acknowledge horrors. It’s that I recognize that every pain I have is a pointer to my own core values trying to be attended to, and integrated, no different from a stomach that grumbles when it needs to be fed. I recognize that my core values are my Divine face of Love/Creation/God.

When I feel pain, I do five steps of release work and generative problem-solving:

1. Fully be with the voices of the pain, because the monkey mind voices are a gift, a clue trying to point out the underlying yearnings and core values  (and I listen to the grumbling also because what we resist persists, and spiritual perfectionism and spiritual bypass have never resolved anything for me)

2. Unpack the primary feelings and needs (core values) trying to be heard behind the monkey mind voices and pain body

3. Move my focus from the voices or narrative or the story / thoughts / beliefs, and toward the felt sense/rain dance of experiencing the core values already fed, fulfilled, as if already happened exactly as my heart wants it. I take as many breaths as I need to exhale the pain or grief or frustration or anger, and inhale the rain dance of the satisfied, restful experience of the core values already fed, already fulfilled, already as my heart wishes.

4. I repeat #3 until my emotional charge shifts to a 2 or less out of 10. When this is complete, there is nothing left except my expanded connection to my own core values (this unique moment’s face of Love)

5. With the clarity of the underlying yearning, and disentangled from any beliefs or blame, I make a simple, doable request of myself or others that would feed that yearning in 10 minutes, right now.  When in doubt, my request is to ask others what request they would ask for given the current needs on the table, and/or I ask Higher Self/Consciousness/God to guide me, or I ask myself to surrender and trust Grace. Or I just ask someone to sit beside me, or give me a hug.

With this practice, I see no evil, hear no evil, and I speak less evil. Every bit of Creation is an attempt at Love’s expression, sometimes bent tragically but innocently through the hands of those who do not have this particular practice, or the skill or resources to do it. I am more and more curious every day, and more and more able every day, to uncover the innocent core values behind phenomena that pain me.  When what pains me is a tragic act of nature, I am better and better every day at grieving without resistance, so that i can fluidly return to my rain dancing, core values and requests.

With this practice, I see Go(o)d everywhere, more and more every day, and am a more contributing cell in the Greater Body. With this practice I am more and more enjoying, even when I’m not enjoying. With this practice, I am better and better every day at connecting to Higher Self, the face of Love, that I Am.

I hope that sharing this out loud might serve you or someone else during a time of need.

With so much love, and blessings to you for the new year,

Maya

 

Collaboration Focus Wheels

If you are an Abraham-Hicks fan, I hope this video will support and the light you.

If you are not yet an Abraham-Hicks fan, I highly recommend it.

In this practice, I do a focus wheel to raise my vibration about collaboration with others.  For more information about focus wheels, you can contact me or subscribe to Tips for Sanity, I believe there is an article on it in there.  Enjoy!

Part 1 –

 

Part 2 –

Rigpa

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rigpa

SORTTing Out Shyness

 I just posted this response on Quora, here:

Why am I so nervous, shy and self conscious in public – and how do I overcome them?

As a life coach and counselor for more than 20 years, I can tell you that there are many forms of process work which can help you answer your question and help you overcome your shy, nervous self-consciousness.

For example, in my work with clients I facilitate a process I call SORTTing It Out. The process shows how feelings like shyness or nervousness are, like a grumbling stomach, just symptoms pointing to underlying core values that are hungry to be fed. Care well for the core values, and the emotions resolve themselves.

Here are examples of what I mean:

For some clients, shyness and nervousness rises when they unconsciously want to be liked, appreciated, valued, and cherished. When we empower the client to better care for those needs, the shy, nervousness self-consciousness is replaced with simple requests, confidence, ease and natural radiance.

For some clients, shyness and nervousness comes from a body that learned as a child that groups of people are “unsafe”. This is especially true with clients who experienced ridicule or judgment as children. Resolve the childhood traumas, and the body finds its own infinite safety, and nervousness and shyness disappear.

In other words, to resolve shyness, care for the core values triggering the shyness and nervousness, or find a coach or wellness practitioner who can help you to do so.

Here are a few questions and resources to help you get started:

1. Imagine that the shy nervous aspect of you is another person. Have a conversation with it. What is it nervous about? What is it afraid of? What does it most deeply want that it’s not sure it’ll get, that makes it shy? Make a list of the answers.

2. Whatever list of answers you get from number 1, notice the underlying core values that the voices are trying to feed. For example, if one line is, “I’m scared I’m not good enough,” ask yourself, “what underlying need or value would be fed if I trust that I am good enough?” Maybe you will discover that you’d want to be good enough so that you will be loved. Or maybe you will discover that you want to be good enough so that you will be included and wanted. At some level, we all need to be loved, included, and wanted. Notice that there is an innocent desire underneath every scared, nervous voice.

3. Give yourself empathy for the underlying core values, or find someone who can. Exhale the feeling of scared, or nervous, and inhale how much you just want to be loved and wanted (or whatever the core value happens to be). With loving appreciation, just notice the underlying desire. Like a loving friend, just sit with the yearning and breathe deeply.

4. Notice the ways your body shifts. Notice how just getting a little empathy helps you feel better. Maybe you even felt a little bit of relief from the empathy just in these words. When you start to feel better, that’s proof that your psychology is getting some of the empathic care that it needs.

5. Once you are fully connected to the underlying core values, ask yourself, “what request can I make of myself or others to feed this need right here, right now, in 10 minutes or less?” Take action to feed your need right now. For example, if you discover that you feel shy because you want to be appreciated, what request could you make of yourself or others right now to feel appreciated? Maybe you will make a list of three things you appreciate about yourself. Maybe you will ask three friends to tell you something they appreciate about you. If you don’t know what to ask for, ask other people what they ask for, “What requests do you make when you want to feel appreciated?”

6. As you get more and more powerful at both self-empathy and making requests to care for your underlying needs, you won’t keep getting so shy or nervous or self-conscious. Eventually, you may even discover that the very needs themselves, well cared for this way, begin to simply evaporate. Doing the practice well, over time, we discover and reconnect to the infinite beings that we must truly are. We connect to our Highest Selves.

7. For more help with this practice, you can sign up (free) for 27 Tips For Sanity, at http://TipsForSanity.com/subscribe , get invitations to discount practice groups, or call the number there to receive coaching support.

Good luck with your practice! You can do it!

Laughing with the Dark

One path to Divine Peace is the path of balance, moderation, The Middle Way.  This path is a dance with, not against opposites. Yin and yang, darkness and light, both / and; the practice resists nothing, because anything we seek to resist is a mirror of our own opportunities to increase our own self-awareness, freedom and Divine Self-expression.

Paradoxically, however, integrating the darkness can’t be done while we’re resisting it. To integrate the darkness is to face the paper tiger (and I assure you, the paper is thin), to plummet into the abyss so deeply that there’s nothing left but to laugh at the absurdity of it all. Dance the Sacred Theater of the horrible macabre that you fear, unresisted, for just 90 seconds, and watch how it melts and transforms.

If the individual can watch the shadow with pure observation, from the depths of darkness we rise like the Phoenix, enlightened of our significance, full of humility, surrender, compassion and an extraordinary sense of humor, able to move fluidly and matter-of-factly again into the ever-renewing Now.

Current Puppetry

For what it’s worth, and with great vulnerability, here’s a node of my current bodymind puppetry.  I’m posting this as a fishing expedition, because I’m feeling quite truly at my wits’ end.  What do you think?  Email me privately please.  Mayagayam at gmail.

Once upon a time, the strategy was to land myself within a “co-created community of gnostic / priesty peers” – and if I couldn’t find it I tried to create it around me. But travelling the world I didn’t find it; my current energy levels limit most travel. Then I learned that to make community is too slow and too much wrestling – far more work than I want to manage, and takes far more directing / driving than I enjoy.

What was that strategy attempting to feed, anyway? This question brings me to this –

I am still dealing with this existential crisis – what do I do with the body to:
– care for my needs for belonging
– care for my needs for purpose (which would give me clarity and direction)
– provide for my needs for care, comfort and security for the body
– care for my needs for touch, sexual expression, and companionship
– care for my needs for community where I feel seen and wanted, met and appreciated, loved and desired
– care for my need to exercise the feminine and the capacities and the mystic and the I Am of me, in tandem with the body
– care for my needs for engagement and joy in my gnostic-heartful-sexy-playful-intelligent-tipheret ways and beyond
– all within a context of fluidity, ease, restfulness, balance and in integrity with myself
?

The answer to this would answer other questions like, “what do I choose relative to the other puppets I meet along the way?”

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And, I’m aware that this is all fundamentally nothing more than puppet talk. I remember the conversation asking me to come here.  Who sent me here to begin with and why?

— update, end of March —

Well in the absence of human response to this post, nonetheless the Guardians Guide.  I find the answer is in the question itself.  I read “Dragon’s Play” section 9, and I feel mySelf again.  Thank you all for reading.

Your Unique Face of Spirit

Distortions and Faces of Love

(pre-requisites – needs consciousness, griefwork and releasework, aptitude to discern resolution vs residue, aptitude to discern strategies and core values)

Love – Needs

Attending to underlying needs is a path to reveal the true Face of Spirit.

(Not “meeting” the needs – Attending to them. Paying attention. Being with them.)

God is in the asshole; the needs are the face of One’s Divinity.

The needs are the path to the Face of Spirit.
Not the needs that are rooted in unresolved residue – those are distortions. Attend to them long enough, without diversion, and the residue will release and resolve.

The needs are the path to the Face of Spirit.
Not the needs that are unconsciously a means for other needs. I learned to contribute and be accomplishing and effective; unbeknownst to me that was a means FOR my needs for belonging and security. The “sin” (off center, off Truth) of expressing the accomplishing and effectiveness nearly killed me. The authentic expression of the yearning for belonging and security is, in this case, universal and Holy.

Attending to needs is the decendant path to freedom.

Decendant path to freedom

Residing with the need – attending to the need
sitting on the curb with it
that is Love’s expression

With Love’s expression, the need evaporates
there’s a fractional ego-death
and we become a more accurate expression of the Face of Love
we become No One (without ego)

Attending to the needs is a fractional form of re-membering

(We are not human beings having a spiritual awakening.  We are spiritual beings having a human awakening.)

And with a daily practice of fractional remembering,
the ego purifies;
This is spiritual hygiene.

When all is said and done, you will walk on water too.


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